While working overseas for 24 years, I had encountered an article (author not recorded) of which the contents are so powerful that we cannot ignore to read and reflect. These are powerful secrets to become a better person, and in so doing, we will know how to deal with our lives, our existence towards success. This is appropriate at this post election days where a lot of relations broke as people deviated from their usual norms just because of politics.
- The Power of Love
Love is connectedness. It heals separation and overcomes fear. Love means wanting to make someone other than yourself happy. It is not a theoretical concept that can be transmitted by empty words and sentimental promises. But real love manifests in sincere actions that actually result in pleasing the person we love. If we want to love anyone, we have to consider his or her needs and desires. We have to be selfless and not selfish.
- The Power of Respect
We cannot love people unless we first respect them. The first we need to respect is GOD. If you have respect for God, then automatically you will respect others whom He loves and who are His children. This ability to show respect gives rise to confidence that springs from knowing and understanding others. Indeed, you may respect even those you may dislike and yet learn from them simply because you are open to hear and understand what they are trying to impart. Ask yourself, “what do I respect about them and what positive things can I learn from these people?”
- The Power of Giving
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is to give it. The more love you give, the happier you will be. To love is to give oneself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship, ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, long term, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.
- The Power of Passion
Passion springs from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by remembering past experiences. It charges up your day. Passion naturally produces spontaneity and surprises. The essence of love and happiness are the same. All we need to do is to live each day with great passion.
- The Power of Forgiveness
If you love someone, then you can forgive for his/her shortcomings. To love, learn to give, forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our false egos and pride. We must instill in ourselves by saying that ”Today that I let go of my grudges, self-pity and selfish sentiments, the past has no power over me. Today is the beginning of a better life”.
- The Power of Touch
Touch is one of the most powerful expression of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our mental and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love. A hug replaces a thousand words.
- The Power of Communication
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. Loving people means communicating with them and reaching out to them soul to soul. Let the people you love know that you love and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words “ I love you”. And just as you realize that loving words can soothe a troubled heart, remember that angry words can pierce and break the heart of a loved one. Think well about what you want to say and do not speak out of envy and anger, but out of love.
- The Power of Commitment
If you want to love in abundance, you must be committed to it. And that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want loving relationships, you must be committed to nurture such loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
- The Power of Trust
Trust is essential in loving relationships. Without it, one becomes fully suspicious, paranoid and fearful. Relationships cannot thrive or grow without trust. Trust is borne out of the realization that one has in mind the other’s well-being. We naturally trust people who care for us in very kind and loving ways. So if we are also in turn given by people such trust, we need to protect and nurture this trust. It is a sign of friendship and love.
Love does not consist of gazing into each other’s eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love others, we must love them for who they are, for what they have and not what they look like externally. Friendship is the soil through which love’s seeds grow.
The secrets that we have demystified are the forces that will empower us to live a happy life. No one wants to be miserable. The answer for our quest to happiness is within our reach… for it lies within us.
