{"id":5534,"date":"2023-03-01T11:30:44","date_gmt":"2023-03-01T11:30:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/theboholtimes.com\/?p=5534"},"modified":"2023-03-06T12:00:48","modified_gmt":"2023-03-06T12:00:48","slug":"nobody-is-perfect","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theboholtimes.com\/?p=5534","title":{"rendered":"<i>Nobody Is Perfect<\/i>"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large is-style-default\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"465\" src=\"https:\/\/theboholtimes.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Thoughts-1024x465.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1554\" srcset=\"https:\/\/theboholtimes.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Thoughts-1024x465.png 1024w, https:\/\/theboholtimes.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Thoughts-300x136.png 300w, https:\/\/theboholtimes.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Thoughts-768x349.png 768w, https:\/\/theboholtimes.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Thoughts-1536x698.png 1536w, https:\/\/theboholtimes.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Thoughts-1170x532.png 1170w, https:\/\/theboholtimes.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Thoughts.png 1650w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>NOBODY is perfect, and nobody deserves to be perfect. Nobody has it easy, everybody has issues. You never know what people are going through. So pause before you start judging, criticizing, or mocking others. Everybody is fighting their own unique war.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I don&#8217;t care what people think about me.&nbsp; I am a different person and life has taught me that you don&#8217;t know me! And you can&#8217;t judge me! Look at yourself in the mirror first! People in glass houses shouldn&#8217;t throw stones.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don&#8217;t judge others and God won&#8217;t judge you. Forgive others and God forgive you. Give and gifts will be given back in good measure, a generous helping. Compress, shaken down, overflowing. For the measure you give for others, is the measure God gives you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No one has the right to judge anyone else so be kind and Almighty bless you all. So stop judging and condemning others for what they want to do with their life or whomever they are. Who they are and you sure can&#8217;t change them for the better. Thank you so much for your kindness and judging by the way who they are and what they are !<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many of us believe perfectionism is a positive. You may count me in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>More often than I\u2019d like to admit, something seemingly inconsequential will cause the same feeling to rear its head again. Something as small as accidentally squashing the makeup I was bringing my first girlfriend\u2019s family for Christmas can tumble around in my mind for several days, accompanied by occasional voices like \u201cHow stupid!\u201d and \u201cYou should have known better\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Falling short of a bigger goal, even when I know achieving it would be near-impossible, can temporarily flatten me. When a former agent told me that she knew I was going to write a book someday but that the particular idea I\u2019d pitched her didn\u2019t suit the market, I felt deflated in a gut-punching way that went beyond disappointment. The negative drowned out the positive. \u201cYou\u2019re never going to write a book,\u201d my internal voice said. \u201cYou\u2019re not good enough.\u201d That voice didn\u2019t care that this directly contradicted what the agent actually said. And, up to now, I haven&#8217;t finished my first book, yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s the thing about perfectionism. It takes no prisoners.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If I\u2019ve struggled with perfectionism, I\u2019m far from alone. The tendency starts young \u2013 and it\u2019s becoming more common. Thomas Curran and Andrew Hill\u2019s recent meta-analysis of rates of perfectionism from 1989 to 2016, the first study to compare perfectionism across generations, found significant increases among more recent undergraduates in the US, UK and Canada. In other words, the average college student last year was much more likely to have perfectionistic tendencies than a student in the 1990&#8217;s or early 2000&#8217;s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s heading toward an epidemic and public health issue. It&#8217;s a great quotation from Katie Rasmussen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cAs many as two in five kids and adolescents are perfectionists,\u201d says Katie, who researches child development and perfectionism at West Virginia University. \u201cWe\u2019re starting to talk about how it\u2019s heading toward an epidemic and public health issue.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The rise in perfectionism doesn\u2019t mean each generation is becoming more accomplished. It means we\u2019re getting sicker, sadder and even undermining our own potential.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here is another great example: a perfectionist, French Claude Monet often destroyed his paintings in a temper while saying, \u2018My life has been nothing but a failure&#8217;.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perfectionism, after all, is an ultimately self-defeating way to move through the world. It is built on an excruciating irony: making, and admitting, mistakes is a necessary part of growing and learning and being human. It also makes you better at your career and relationships and life in general. By avoiding mistakes at any cost, a perfectionist can make it harder to reach their own lofty goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the drawback of perfectionism isn\u2019t just that it holds you back from being your most successful, productive self. Perfectionistic tendencies have been linked to a laundry list of clinical issues: depression and anxiety (even in children), self-harm, social anxiety disorder and agoraphobia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, binge eating, anorexia, bulimia, and other eating disorders, post-traumatic stress disorder, chronic fatigue syndrome, insomnia, hoarding, dyspepsia, chronic headaches, and, most damning of all, even early mortality and suicide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s something that cuts across everything, in terms of psychological problems,\u201d says Sarah Egan, a senior research fellow at the Curtin University in Perth who specialises in perfectionism, eating disorders and anxiety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Culturally, I learned, we often see perfectionism as a positive. Even saying you have perfectionistically tendencies can come off as a coy compliment to yourself; it\u2019s practically a stock answer to the \u201cWhat\u2019s your worst trait?\u201d question in job interviews. (Past employers, now you know! I wasn\u2019t just being cute).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Studies have shown that \u2018adaptive\u2019 aspects like striving for achievement have no effect at all or may even protect you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is difficult to tell who is motivated and conscientious and who is a perfectionist. Earlier, in my daily teaching at the University of Southeastern Philippines in Davao City, I met a student who works hard and gets a poor mark. If she\/her tells herself: \u201cI\u2019m disappointed, but it\u2019s okay; I\u2019m still a good person overall,\u201d that\u2019s healthy. If the message is: \u201cI\u2019m a failure. I\u2019m not good enough,\u201d that\u2019s perfectionism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That inner voice criticises different things for different people \u2013 work, relationships, tidiness, fitness. My own tendencies may differ greatly from somebody else\u2019s. It can take someone who knows me well to pick up on them. (When I messaged one of my friends I was writing this story, he immediately sent back a long line of laughing emojis).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perfectionists can make smooth sailing into a storm, a brief ill wind into a category-five hurricane. At the very least, they perceive it that way. And, because the ironies never end, the behaviors perfectionists adapt ultimately, actually, do make them more likely to fail.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thinking of perfectionism, makes me think of my own childhood peppered with avoiding (or starting and quitting) almost every sport there was. If I wasn\u2019t adept at something almost from the get-go, I didn\u2019t want to continue \u2013 especially if there was an audience watching. In fact, multiple studies have found a correlation between perfectionism and performance anxiety even in children as young as 10.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mental health problems aren\u2019t just caused by perfectionism; some of these problems can lead to perfectionism, too. One recent study, for example, found that over a one-year period, college students who had social anxiety were more likely to become perfectionists \u2013 but not vice versa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After all, many of us live in societies where the first question when you meet someone is what you do for a living. Where we are so literally valued for the quality and extent of our accomplishments that those achievements often correlate, directly, to our ability to pay rent or put food on the table. Where complete strangers weigh these on-paper values to determine everything from whether we can rent that flat or buy that car or receive that loan. Where we then signal our access to those resources with our appearance \u2013 these shoes, that physique \u2013 and other people weigh that, in turn, to see if we\u2019re the right person for a job interview or dinner invitation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Fear of failure is getting magnified in other ways, too. Take social media: make a mistake today and your fear that it might be broadcast, even globally, is hardly irrational. At the same time, all of those glossy feeds reinforce unrealistic standards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In my opinion, and I am not alone with it, it\u2019s the idea that you don\u2019t have to be perfect to be lovable or to be loved. It\u2019s a work in progress. And,&nbsp; what I\u2019ve noticed too, is that, each time I\u2019m able to replace criticizing and perfecting with compassion, I feel not only less stressed, but freer. Apparently, that\u2019s not unusual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How about you, my dear readers?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Email: doringklaus@gmail.com or follow me on Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter or visit my www.germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com .<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>NOBODY is perfect, and nobody deserves to be perfect. Nobody has it easy, everybody has issues. 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